Sunday, 11 December 2011

Happiness in Scientific Research

Here is something interesting that I read from scanning Facebook today. 

Source:  http://www.livescience.com/9824-5-happier.html

There are five ways to feel happier, according to recent studies. 

1. Be grateful Some study participants were asked to write letters of gratitude to people who had helped them in some way. The study found that these people reported a lasting increase in happiness – over weeks and even months –after implementing the habit. What's even more surprising: Sending the letter is not necessary. Even when people wrote letters but never delivered them to the addressee, they still reported feeling better afterwards.

2. Be optimistic – Another practice that seems to help is optimistic thinking. Study participants were asked to visualize an ideal future – for example, living with a loving and supportive partner, or finding a job that was fulfilling – and describe the image in a journal entry. After doing this for a few weeks, these people too reported increased feelings of well-being.

3. Count your blessings – People who practise writing down three good things that have happened to them every week show significant boosts in happiness, studies have found. It seems the act of focusing on the positive helps people remember reasons to be glad.

4. Use your strengths – Another study asked people to identify their greatest strengths, and then to try to use these strengths in new ways. For example, someone who says they have a good sense of humour could try telling jokes to lighten up business meetings or cheer up sad friends. This habit, too, seems to heighten happiness.

5. Commit acts of kindness – It turns out helping others also helps ourselves. People who donate time or money to charity, or who altruistically assist people in need, report improvements in their own happiness.
And how are you feeling today? 

Until next time,

Bee Rich

Just a giggle to share. 

Saturday, 10 December 2011

101 Posts!

New fallen snow on our pines.
          I love to write. In August, inspired by Emily and Lindsay (two wonderful friends from Egyptian days),  I began to write a blog.  This morning I noticed that I have written 100 entries.  That calls for some form of celebration...something like what primary classroom teachers plan on the 100th day of school.  So, for all of my favourite people who read this blog, here are 100 reasons to write and/or read people's blogs.

100- You will learn something new every day about life.
  99- You will learn something about yourself.
  98- It is good for the soul.
  97- It is great practise for the writing process.
  96- You can count down the days until Christmas.
  95- You can post awesome pictures so your friends and family can visualise where you are.
  94- You can use spell check before you press PUBLISH POST.
  93- Blogger continuously saves your writing, so if you accidentally press the wrong key, you don't lose all of your work.
  92- It is easy and FUN to learn to blog.
  91- You can "free think" and write to your heart's content, and then delete the inappropriate parts.
  90- You can keep track of the date.
  89- It keeps your mind active.
  88- Your mind subconsciously sends messages like: "You could write about this."
  87- You can recall wonderful memories.
  86- You get to tell and retell stories.
  85- You can reflect on news items.
  84- You can copy and paste (aka steal) quotations from Facebook and Hotmail.
  83- You can reread your blog and think, "Did I really write that?"
  82- You can look back in your declining years and recall something that you have forgotten.
  81- You can write about sad times.
  80- You can write about happy times.
  79- You can ask rhetorical questions.
  78- You sometimes receive comments from people you didn't know were reading your blog.
  77- There is a deep satisfaction when you write something just right.
  76- You can always go back and edit a blog post.
  75- You can express appreciation.
  74- You can start a family feud about animal rights.
  73- You can promote a worthwhile cause.
  72- You can express love.
  71- You can learn about different genres of writing and experiment with them.
  70- When someone asks you what you like to do in your spare time, you can say, "I write a blog."
  69- You can express satisfaction.
  68- You gain insight.
  67- You get to know yourself.
  66- You get to know others.
  65- You realise how difficult it is to stick to a schedule.
  64- You appreciate the passage of time.
  63- You gain wisdom from others.
  62- You realise that you have something worthwhile to say. 
  61- You realise that others have something worthwhile to say.
  60- You begin to value your primary and secondary and tertiary education.
  59- You grow spiritually.
  58- You grow emotionally.
  57- You grow stronger in your convictions.
  56- You become a more flexible thinker.
  55- You realise that sometimes the only people who care about what you write are your best friends in the world and yourself, and that's okay.
  54- You realise that you will never run out of ideas.
  53- You understand that everyone has a different point of view and that is what makes life so interesting.
  52- You learn to agree to disagree. 
  51- You learn to persevere.
  50- You see how one person can make a difference.
  49- You can pick labels which help you and others to find out what really is important to you.
  48- You can gain confidence in yourself.
  47- You can do something that you really enjoy.
  46- You begin to realise that you are a part of something greater.
  45- You learn to empathise more with others.
  44- You begin to share experiences with others.
  43- You can imagine being at someone's home for tea.
  42- You can travel vicariously.
  41- You can encourage others.
  40- You can encourage yourself.
  39- You begin to understand your priorities.
  38- You are more open to the ideas of others.
  37- You experience the power of the written word.
  36- You understand that a picture is often worth more than a thousand words.
  35- You learn more about what really interests you.
  34- You see that inspiration can come from within or without.
  33- Reading and writing are great motivators.
  32- You do not have to worry about due dates, deadlines, rubrics or marks.
  31- You can change your name to a pen name.
  30- You can pass on your web address to people and know that only those who are truly interested will be your audience.
  29- You can take a break to help your husband do something more important, like putting up the Christmas lights, and go back to your writing later.
  28- You can write and drink tea at the same time.
  27- It saves paper.
  26- You feel connected, linked in, networked, or whatever the jargon of the day happens to be.
  25- You can express joy.
  24- You can enjoy a cup of coffee while you write or read.
  23- You can stand up while you write or read.
  22- You can enjoy a glass or two of wine while you write.
  21- You can see the joy in the most menial of tasks e.g. washing dishes, vacuuming, gardening.

  19-  You can make comments about the weather.
  18-  You can recall a story from a CBC program that really turned your crank.
  17-  You can ponder the meaning of life.
  16-  You can begin to accept the realities of your situation.
  15-  You can begin to examine your mortality.
  14-  You can count down from 100 the most important reasons for blogging.
  13-  You can reconnect with a brother or sister. 
  12-  You can touch the life of a person who lives half way around the globe.
  11-  You can pass on good news. 
  10-  You can express hope.
    9-  You can make a difference in one person's life.
    8-  You can start a "prayer chain".
    7-  You can celebrate special moments.
    6-  You can honour a special person in your life. 
    5-  You can highlight a special moment in your life. 
    4-  You can reconcile with a long lost friend.
    3-  You can connect with those people you cherish. 
    2-  You can stay in touch with the important people in your life.
    1-  You can express gratitude--thank YOU for reading to the end of this centenary of ideas. 

Here's to the first one hundred.  Now on to the next one hundred...

Until next time,


Bee Rich
 
 
I hope you will know if you are on my list of someone I miss! 
 


Wednesday, 7 December 2011

The Reason for the Season

          My good friend from teaching days in St. Maarten sent the link below for me (and all her email friends to listen to.  I don't usually take the time to turn up the speakers and really listen to music, but there was something about the message that made me stop, click, look and listen. 

          Before you listen, please take the time to read the following message, which came to my email in-box today and brought a tear to my eye.  Merry Christmas Season! 

Bee Rich

About the Song 
While at the mall a couple of years ago, my then four year old nephew, Spencer, saw kids lined up to see Santa Claus. Having been taught as a toddler that Christmas is the holiday that Christians celebrate the birth of Jesus, he asked his mom, "where's the line to see Jesus"?             
My sister mentioned this to my dad, who immediately became inspired and jotted words down to a song in just a few minutes. After putting music to the words, and doing a quick recording at home, he received a great response from friends. He sent the song off to Nashville without much response, except for a Christian song writer who suggested adding a bridge at the end of the first chorus. My dad then asked if I wanted to record the song to see what we could do with it. I listened to the song, made a few changes to the words to make it flow better, and we headed to Shock City Studios.             
It was at the studio where Chris, owner and producer, rewrote the 2nd verse and part of the chorus... with goose bumps and emotions high, we were all hopeful and felt like we had something special. The demo was recorded in just under 2 hours and sent off again to Nashville... still no response. 
Then 2 weeks before Christmas last year, my cousins Greg and Robbie decided to do a video to see what we could accomplish on YouTube. The first day we had 3000 hits and it soared from there. We received e-mails, phone calls, Facebook messages from people all over asking for the music, CD's, iTunes, anything... we had nothing. After a couple of meetings with Chris following the amazing response, we got serious. We headed back into the studio this past spring... this time with guitars, drums, bass, pianos, choirs... the real deal.... and here we are today.
Getting iTunes set up, a website put together, and loving that thousands upon thousands of Christians have come together... remembering the true meaning of Christmas. Out of the mouths of babes come profound truths that many adults can not understand. Hopefully Spencer's observation will cause people all over to reflect on the love of Jesus, and that one day we will all stand in line to see Him. We are most thankful to our Heavenly Father to have this chance to share our music with you. Merry Christmas everyone.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!

OFFICIAL MUSIC VIDEO


http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=OExXItDyWEY&vq=medium

Tuesday, 6 December 2011

Christmas and the Post Office

Our daughter's last visit- Thanksgiving 2011.
          As the Christmas Season arrives, I usually write a long list and, like Santa, gain great satisfaction from checking it twice.  Every year there are cards to write and send, gifts to buy and wrap, a tree to cut and decorate, goodies to bake and store, and dinner to prepare and eat!  I love the season because it usually brings out the best in people. 
          This year is a little bit different.  For the first time in many years, our daughter will not be here to celebrate.  She is a grown up working person.  And she is working in a foreign country.  In early November I visited the local post office to find out the recommended dates to send packages to Europe.  The date was November 28.  As you can probably guess, I was a little bit late in my purchasing and preparing, so when the gifts were finally wrapped and packed and wrapped again, the date on the calendar was December 5.  Oops.  Missed it by a week. 
          We decided to contact the three available couriers for estimates of the cost for a 15 X 12 X 6 inch parcel weighing just under ten pounds.  I was elated to find out that they each would deliver the package within five days.  However, when I was given the cost- oh my- almost $200.00, I thought it might be better to check the post office again. 
          I walked into our local office and the worker greeted me with a huge happy smile.  "So you have your package ready?" she asked excitedly.
          "Yes, it is here, but I'm late," I replied.
          "No, I think you are just in time." 
          Puzzled, I looked on the chart of best times to send parcels.  To send them by Expresspost (which is similar to a courier), my daughter's gifts did not have to be sent until December 6.  Whew!  I had made it. 
           The worker weighed and measured the package, while I held my breath.  She had told me that if it was over two kilograms (around five pounds) the cost would sky rocket.  It weighed 2.54 kilograms.  Long story short, the price for sending the package, which would arrive within ten days, was only $94.81. 
          I left the post office feeling relieved and thankful.  My deserving daughter would have something from home to open on Christmas morning.  CHECK!
          Now it is time to get on with the rest of the preparations.  Christmas cards are next!

Until tomorrow,

Bee Rich

PS  I am happy to report that, as I wrote this entry, the snow gently drifted down, covering the pines with a beautiful white frosting.

Sunday, 4 December 2011

Christmas Preparations

Snowmen and Santa Claus
         Today was a wonderful day!  After cleaning almost every inch of our home, I descended in to the crawl space to retrieve the Christmas decorations.  I turned on the radio, listened to Christmas tunes, and bit by bit, decorated for the season. 
         As I unwrapped each individual ornament, memories filled my head and heart
  • Christmas 1979 ball- our first Christmas as a married couple
  • Christmas 1980- our son's first Christmas
  • Baby's First Christmas 1982- our daughter's first Christmas
  • Hand made decorations from my sister dated 1982
  • Hand made decorations from my sister-in-law dated 1990
  • A beautiful Christmas angel made and painted by a sister-in-law who is no longer living
        The list goes on and on, each item a subtle reminder of Christmases past, kept from year to year to remind us of our good fortune and the ever present passage of time. 

Until next time,

Bee Rich

My sister-in-law's reminder...

The Christmas creche from my childhood. 

Saturday, 3 December 2011

December is Here!

The Happy Hopper at four months. 
         
          Last weekend I drove to Guelph to spend some time with our grandson.  A month had passed since the last time I had seen him.  So many changes are happening in his little life.  One of them is that he sits upright in his Jolly Jumper. He hops and hops and hops and then flashes his cute little grin.  I call him Happy Hopper.
          It reminds me of a time, 30 years ago, when our son was this age.  We had a Jolly Jumper (but not near so fancy) and he, too, would hop and hop and hop and flash his cute little grin.  We lived in a small bungalow in Wasaga Beach, off the beaten path. 
          I often felt isolated. We had a small colour TV and a black telephone which was connected to the wall. I believe it had a rotary dial. We did not have a second vehicle for me to drive, nor a computer, a cell phone, the internet, Facebook, email, Skype.
         I would often, in those early days, put my son in a Snugli and go for long walks with him fastened to my chest.  I would wander for miles and he would sleep.  I walked by the side of the road, through the bush, to the beach, and back home again in time to prepare dinner.  We lived in simpler times then. 
          Flash forward to today.  It is December! On Wednesday this week my boy turns 31. I am thankful that he was born on that cold wintry Sunday morning in 1980.  I am thankful for his life and also for his wife.  I am thankful for his son, our grandson.  Most of all, I am thankful for the continuity of life, for family gatherings, and for good health.
          I am looking forward to the Christmas season.  Next time, I will write about my amazing daughter, who is visiting Paris, France this weekend. 

Until then,

Bee Rich

A Rich Family
 
Bye-bye little one, until next time!
         
          
         
         

Thursday, 1 December 2011

Not Now!

I needed to read this today!
          After three full days in a kindergarten class (aka Early Learning Centre), I am a little tired and discouraged.  I had requested an evaluation for today in order to complete part of the requirements for new occasional teachers.  A time was set twice, but unfortunately, the administrator of the school was too busy "chasing students."  The evaluation did not happen. No evaluation, no letter of reference from a local principal, no full time job, at least for now.
          Last week I applied for a full time teaching job at a location close to home. There was no phone call this week, so I won't be having an interview.  Another disappointment. Glancing through my facebook homepage I saw this cartoon.  The cartoon reminded me that there is a time for everything, and this is not the right time.
         
          What I need now are  serenity, courage, and wisdom. 
          I need serenity to accept the things I cannot change
          I need courage to change the things I can
          And I need wisdom to know the difference between the two. 

          And the small still voice in my head says, "Not now."  I am content. 
         
Until next time,         

Bee Rich